Symbol of the Month: Gather ye rosebuds while ye may as Death is always waiting

At last the endless sorting out of boxes is over after the move.  I’ve found some money I’d forgotten about, family photos and a lot of books. The Cancer r Research charity shop in the High Street is groaning under the weight of my donations and I have recycled a lot of stuff.

And now down to the important things in life – shadowsflyaway!   I didn’t have an internet connection for a few weeks which was probably a good thing as it made me concentrate on emptying boxes and organising rooms.

But let’s begin with Symbol of the Month!

This month’s symbol comes from a post on Facebook’s Folk Horror Revival page and I was intrigued enough to make this one Symbol of the Month.  I would describe it as a memento mori which is Latin for ‘Remember you must die.’

Tombstone from St Peter’s Church Falstone ,Northumberland
©Stephen Sebastian Murray

It’s a carving on a tombstone featuring a skeleton and a woman or girl facing the viewer. She is holding three flowers in one hand.  In this photo, although the skeleton almost seems to be rising from the ground, he is actually holding a scythe in one hand and an hourglass in the other.  This can be seen more clearly in the clipping from Northumberland’s Hidden History by Stan Beckensall which another reader on the strand of the post kindly attached.

Clipping on headstone from Falstone churchyard, Northumberland. taken from Northumberland’s Hidden History by Stan Beckensall used without permission.

She is wearing a tightly belted dress, perhaps fashionable in her time, and seems carefree despite having Death standing next to her in all his glory. I had the impression that this might have been on the grave of a young girl due to her dress and the flowers.

They reminded me of roses and I immediately thought of the famous phrase, ‘Gather ye rosebuds while you may’ which is a quotation from a poem by Robert Herrick, a 16th century poet.

The poem is entitled: To the Virgins to make much of time and the quotation comes from the first verse:

Gather ye rosebuds while ye may,

   Old Time is still a-flying;

And this same flower that smiles today

   Tomorrow will be dying.

So this little scene could be saying Enjoy life while you can as death will soon be here.’   It sounds a little depressing but life was shorter in earlier times. In the 19th century, for example, the average life of a working man was until their late 40’s and women often died in childbirth.  I wander around cemeteries a lot as you can imagine and there are many monuments and memorials to wives and often children who have died young as a result.  On the other hand it can be seen as uplifting in that it encourages the onlooker to enjoy life to the fullest.

Sadly I don’t know who’s buried here but she or he was obviously much missed to have such an impressive scene carved on their tombstone.

© text Carole Tyrrell photos use  with permission.

4 thoughts on “Symbol of the Month: Gather ye rosebuds while ye may as Death is always waiting

  1. Augustina

    Thank you!
    I remember reading the poem in high school. The boys teased us girls about it.
    One of the flowers looks very much like a four petaled wild rose, which all other roses stem from.
    The hour glass is repeated in the shape of the woman, and her shape makes it easier to tell her gender. Very nice.
    There is so much wonderful detail still visible. That angel on top looks impressive.
    I always thought men used to die off more frequently than women. But your cemetery holds the bones of more women and children. I assume almost half of the children are male? Men used to go off on wars and other manly pursuits and never come back home, so there was no body to bury, I assume..

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    1. Dear Augustina
      You make some interesting points especially with the hourglass and the shape of the woman. The angel on top is often known as the Angel of Death.
      Men who were killed in battle were often buried where they fell so no memorial. I thought it was very interesting tombstonr.
      Best wishes
      Carole

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  2. The skeleton and young girl make an odd pair, but as you wrote, whomever was buried there was loved and missed. Glad you are settled into your new home and have helped a charity and recycled. Nice to find a post from you.

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